The Choice is Up to Us

A lot of energy is wasted in adversarial relationships.  Unless you are in a life or death situation, it's often better to disengage from someone who is set against you rather than try to defeat or outdo them.  Your time and effort is better spent finding and working with those who are aligned to your purpose.  ~ Isabel Parlett

Every conflict we face in life is rich with positive and negative potential. It can be a source of inspiration, enlightenment, learning, transformation, and growth–or rage, fear, shame, entrapment, and resistance. The choice is not up to our opponents, but to us, and our willingness to face and work through them.   ~ Kenneth Cloke and Joan Goldsmith